- I didn't want to have a race.
- I don't want to wipe everything!
- I don't want to write 100 things
- you mean I have to write all of them before I can enjoy any privileges!?
- I don't want to write 7's!
- I don't want to read it out loud!
- Why don't you want even the tiniest bit of food on my shirt?
(Unfortunately, quite a few of Ian's complaints are missing because he is pretty hard on his notebooks, and it is hard to find the notebooks that don't have the easy tear out feature.)
- I don't like that I have to read it.
- I just don't like this new chart!
- I don't want to copy the words!
- I just don't like it! No!
- I can't scrub that hard! I can't!
- I don't want to! I'm staying outside!
- I just can't do it! I'm just having such a hard day!
- Mom, it's too big! I want to play a game first! I'm just too little to do this! I just need a day off!
- I want dice math!
- I want it! I just need that ruler!
- No I won't!
- Why can we only have 1? I want TWO grilled cheese sandwiches! Why?
(Note: some complaints are disguised as questions! Do not hesitate to write down ANYTHING that is a complaint, no matter how it is disguised!)
ANYWAY. So, I write the complaints down all day, and the next time the child wants ANYTHING (snack, meal, television time, computer time, any electronic time, play with friends, etc...) I say something like, "I didn't enjoy listening to you complain all day, so, to help you remember how unpleasant that is for me, you get to write every one of your complaints (X) times before you can (do whatever they wanted to do)." I determine the number of times they need to write each complaint based on: their personality, abilities, and number of complaints:
*usually 1-2 times, per complaint, for those who are just learning to write, or are stubborn as a mule, or are ALWAYS in trouble
*somewhere between 5-10 times per complaint for those who know how to write and just need to be reminded that complaining is obnoxious.
So! Get out a notebook and a writing instrument and ENJOY the complaining today! Picture the look of COMPLETE DISBELIEF on your child's face when you hand him/her the notebook and explain the new consequence for complaining at your house =)!