Friday, August 26, 2011

Example of a Crappy Day Package #1

A Lovely, Lovely Person* sent me a Crappy Day Package a while ago, and I thought that everyone who comes here looking for "Crappy Day Present" might like more ideas, so here you are:
(She also sent some dissolving-capsule sponge toys for the children, and a horse toy for Marie, but the children were package-magnets that day and were ALL OVER that box before I could get their things in the picture.)
  1. Cute, happy looking socks
  2. BEAUTIFUL, BRIGHT, NON-STAINED kitchen towels
  3. A pretty bandana (in the very back) that was used to wrap the horse toy
  4. Some wonderful handmade soap that smelled so good that I REALLY wanted to LICK IT (I resisted.) (It was hard!)
  5. PRETTY clothespins!!

I think these were my FAVORITE!  They are so PRETTY:  pink background with a green paisley design.  I use clothespins to close various bags in the kitchen, and these will be MUCH more pleasing to the eye than the plain brown ones!
Thank you again, Lovely Person, for brightening my (and my children's) day!!
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*I will be keeping Crappy Day Present senders anonymous so that the sender doesn't have to worry that Person Q is going to see what they (the sender) sent me and possibly feel bad that their (Person Q's) package was not as fabulous as mine ;-).  But if you don't worry as much as I do aren't worried about that, you are welcome to claim your package in the comments!

Thursday, August 18, 2011

PSA: A fun parenting/behavior modification technique!

As I was trying to organize the school things this morning, I came across some notebooks I had forgotten about that reminded me of another thing I do to modify unpleasant behavior.

The children CONSTANTLY often complain about various things, so when that starts to get on my nerves, I quietly start writing their complaints down in a special notebook I keep for this very purpose, labelled "(Child)'s Complaint Book".  They are just the basic, wire-bound notebooks (WHICH JUST HAPPEN TO BE ON SALE RIGHT NOW (although I'd absolutely be willing to pay full-price for this purpose if I had to) IF YOU NEED SOME!).  I do this in a notebook for two reasons.  First, it is easy to keep track of, and, second, it is REALLY funny to go back after a few months and read what they were complaining about!  Examples of ACTUAL, past complaints, in their original format, at my house: 

Ian
  • HUMPH
  • I didn't want to have a race.
  • I don't want to wipe everything!
  • I don't want to write 100 things
  • you mean I have to write all of them before I can enjoy any privileges!?
  • I don't want to write 7's!
  • I don't want to read it out loud!
  • Why don't you want even the tiniest bit of food on my shirt?

(Unfortunately, quite a few of Ian's complaints are missing because he is pretty hard on his notebooks, and it is hard to find the notebooks that don't have the easy tear out feature.)

David
  • I don't like that I have to read it.
  • I just don't like this new chart!
  • I don't want to copy the words!
  • I just don't like it!  No!
  • I can't scrub that hard!  I can't!
  • I don't want to!  I'm staying outside!
  • I just can't do it!  I'm just having such a hard day!
  • Mom, it's too big!  I want to play a game first!  I'm just too little to do this!  I just need a day off!
  • I want dice math!
  • I want it!  I just need that ruler!
  • No I won't!
  • Why can we only have 1?  I want TWO grilled cheese sandwiches!  Why?

(Note:  some complaints are disguised as questions!  Do not hesitate to write down ANYTHING that is a complaint, no matter how it is disguised!)

ANYWAY.  So, I write the complaints down all day, and the next time the child wants ANYTHING (snack, meal, television time, computer time, any electronic time, play with friends, etc...) I say something like, "I didn't enjoy listening to you complain all day, so, to help you remember how unpleasant that is for me, you get to write every one of your complaints (X) times before you can (do whatever they wanted to do)."  I determine the number of times they need to write each complaint based on:  their personality, abilities, and number of complaints: 
*usually 1-2 times, per complaint, for those who are just learning to write, or are stubborn as a mule, or are ALWAYS in trouble
and
*somewhere between 5-10 times per complaint for those who know how to write and just need to be reminded that complaining is obnoxious.

So!  Get out a notebook and a writing instrument and ENJOY the complaining today!  Picture the look of COMPLETE DISBELIEF on your child's face when you hand him/her the notebook and explain the new consequence for complaining at your house =)!